Staring at a photo of a model on Instagram, various thoughts race through your head. You admire her glowing skin, glossy hair, long slender legs, shapely butt, and sparkling smile. She has sun-kissed skin from a getaway in Bali and too good to be true cleavage spilling out of her top. Along with your observations, comes the voice in your head asking yourself, why don’t I look like that? We’re all human, how did these lucky people who clog our social media manage to avoid what seems like life to everyone else around us. These girls don’t have stretch marks from natural body changes or bearing children, their teeth look like they’ve never taken a sip of coffee, there is not a flyaway to be found in their head, we watch them post photos with anything from perfectly prepared smoothies to pizza, and their body never fails to stay the same.
Claire Mysko, an award-winning author and an internationally recognized expert on body image states “While social media is not the cause of low self-esteem, it has all the right elements to contribute to it”
We all try to show others our best side. Our best face, our best qualities, our best clothes. We all at one point, seek acceptance from others. In this process, we lose sight of ourselves and reality. We chase this dream, we aspire to be perfect. But, every person has their own flaws, they all may be different but they’re all existent. People around the world are fooled by the models and celebrities you see in movies, on social media, and in commercials. Millions of us believe the lies and resort to unhealthy measures to try to fit into impossible molds.
Nobody specific is to blame for this. I believe everyone should do what makes them happy. Happiness is individual. What makes you happy is based on preference. Some people have smaller boobs and love them, others seek to repair this via surgery or a trip to Victoria’s Secret. Yet some girls that are naturally busty wish that they weren’t. Short girls wish they were tall, and tall girls wish they were shorter. Throughout our lives, we will go after what we don’t have. In some sense this is excellent. You should go after your dreams, and you should aim to improve yourself both mentally and physically. But there becomes a point in time, in which were chasing after a false reality. Many of the things our “idols” are portraying on the daily are unobtainable. Nobody can walk around every day with a filter over their face, perfect lighting hovering around them, with an extremely talented photographer capturing their best moments. When you wake up in the morning, you can’t blur away every imperfection, we don’t all want plastic surgery, we can’t all afford plastic surgery, you can’t make your waist smaller with an app, you can’t stay in your perfect pose that accentuates your curves for the next 16 hours you’re awake.
We all laugh, we all cry, we all occasionally wake up with a pesky zit, we all have bad hair days, we all get down on ourselves here and there. If you’re going to compare yourself to someone, make that someone you. Compare yourself to what you used to be, compare yourself to who you can be. Use this as motivation every day. We have all overcome obstacles, and we all have much more to face in our future. Don’t let the people who make their living off of their media appearance have an influence on your opinion of yourself.
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